Being married is work but isn’t supposed to be boring.
You should be able to look at your spouse and feel a rush of love, excitement, and passion.
But too often, married life can feel like a chore.
It is a chore sometimes, but it shouldn’t always be.
Marriage is supposed to be a happy, fulfilling relationship.
But if you’re in a boring marriage, it can feel like anything but.
If you’re feeling unhappy or just plain unfulfilled, here are some signs that your marriage is boring:
1. You don’t spend any time together
If you and your spouse are barely spending any time together, it’s a sign that your marriage is becoming boring.
2. You don’t have anything to talk about
When you spend time together, do you find that you don’t have anything to say to each other?
If you can’t think of anything interesting to tell your spouse when they call or when you are together, your marriage is getting stale.
Being in love means wanting to share every aspect of your life with the person who matters most — even the mundane parts.
Your spouse should be your gossip partner!
3. You’re not having any fun
Marriage should be enjoyable. I know married life can get so busy, especially with kids, but a couple should always create time to do something fun together.
One of the ways my husband and I have fun in our marriage is by watching the same Netflix series together. It’s also a way to spend time together.
4. You don’t like being around each other anymore
You may still love each other but just don’t feel like spending time together anymore — or even being at home with each other.
5. You don’t do anything together
Do you ever do anything together as a couple? When last did you bathe, eat, play, take a walk, or go on a date together? While it’s important to spend quality time with your children, they shouldn’t eclipse spending quality time alone with your spouse.
6. You don’t laugh together anymore
When last did you have a good belly laugh with your spouse?
I mean, really laugh — not just chuckle or giggle. If you can’t remember, it’s probably because you don’t laugh together that much anymore. You should be laughing at each other’s jokes and sharing funny videos or memes.
Laughter is one of the easiest ways to bond with someone, but if you don’t laugh with your spouse anymore, this may mean that there isn’t any intimacy left in the marriage.
7. You don’t feel connected to each other anymore
When you’re in love, you feel connected to your partner on a deep level.
You share everything with each other — your hopes, dreams, fears, and secrets.
8. You’re not physically intimate anymore
Physical intimacy is an important part of marriage, and if you’re not being intimate with your spouse, it’s a sign that passion is lacking in your marriage.
9. You are constantly fighting
When was the last time you had a civil conversation with your spouse?
If you find yourself arguing every time you talk, there’s probably something wrong with your marriage.
10. You’ve stopped trying to be romantic
One of the signs of a boring marriage is when you’ve stopped trying to be romantic with each other. You don’t remember the last time you did something special for your spouse or even said, “I love you.” You no longer share hugs and kisses or touch each other (even without s*x).
Kisses and hugs may seem like small things, but they’re a great way to keep the spark alive in your relationship.
11. You take each other for granted
Taking each other for granted and not thanking them for things they do for you or the household in general (cooking dinner, cleaning, paying the bills, caring for children, etc.) is also a sign that things are going stale in your marriage.
12. No more cuddling
Cuddling may seem like a playful pastime, but it is one of the most important ways couples can connect.
Research shows that cuddling is critical for your physical and mental health.
Couples who cuddle more are happier and more satisfied with their relationships overall.
13. You spend more time with your phone than with each other
In the age of social media, it’s easy to get lost in the world of likes and shares.
You might think that’s not a big deal — until you realize that you spend more time scrolling through your phone than talking to your spouse.
Talk to your spouse about your concerns and try to come up with some ways to spice up your marriage, such as:
Scheduling some time for yourself and your spouse to spend together.
The time will vary depending on how busy both parties are.
Some couples think weekly date nights are enough, while others are fine with monthly outings. Whatever works for you.
Do something fun
Choose an activity/activities that you both enjoy.
Talk about your feelings and set aside time exclusively for discussing each other’s hopes and dreams
This will help you feel more connected to your spouse.
Yes, even if you’ve been married for years.
You can do this by complimenting your spouse and touching each other.
With some effort, you can get back on track and have a happy and fulfilling relationship.